Two years ago we were married, I was/am in love. A gift from God! Unfortnately, I developed worse health problems not long into the marriage. (he knew i had them when he married me) I've had 4 operations since we've been married. I've been miserable. We've had problems...well I wanted help, I was miserable about my condition, and his lack of being able to communicate about his feelings, but he always said "i was perfect" Since my last surgery in Novemember I have gotten better, slowly but since Feb I have been working out, striving to get better, (also i was recently diagonosed with firbromyagia too) Suddenly the last couple weeks he has been expressing anger, I was thrown, but when asked about it he would blow it off. Then suddenly two days ago he told me he no longer wants to be with me and doesn't think he even wants to bother to work it out! He's home every night, and on weekends, I don't think there is another woman. Im 35 he's 43. Im sick and scared. I'm so in love with him yet and not on my own financial feet yet. I finally convinced him to talk to our pastor, but he doesn't even think thats going to work. He still calls me sweetie, honey, touches me on the cheek, but at odd times he has this anger that he NEVER has shown before. Everyone I talk to that knows him says he is acting so out of character, I am so hurt and confused. Does anyone have any ideas? I feel like I am going slowly insane. I feel like somebody has died.
I want to save this thing, I took my marriage vows seriously, I thought this was going to be forever!

I have been going through something similar--4 years of sudden illness, major depressions, and finally a diagnosis of bipolar disorder, beginning after 14 years of marriage and 3 kids. I have found out since that there were other reasons that he left, but when he left he told me that it was because he was tired of me being sick. I'm not an expert, but I think he might be acting angry to try to shield himself from his feelings for you; many men have trouble coping with illness (just do a little searching--you'll find lots of info about it). I don't have advice for you about your marriage since I still am in trouble in my own, but I think you're right to suggest some kind of counseling so that you can find out if there are other issues he's avoiding. In the meantime, please take care of yourself; maybe if he sees that you CAN that will make a difference.