Had to go off line to clear my head a little. Listened to some of Dr. Harley on tape. That man is a godsend. Anyway, I have had a question in the back of my mind ever since you two started posting. Have you guys read any of Dr. Harleys Books or listened to any of his tapes? I highly recommend doing so. Even if you guys decided not to stay together, you owe it to yourselves to avail yourselves of this information. I have been looking for a counselor for a long time Dr. Harley is one of the few counsolers that is worth his weight in gold. If you both grow and change, wouldnt it be worth it?