My wedding is coming up next month, and we are having some issues, that seem to just keep resurfacing from issues we thought we had resolved in the past. Since our engagment we seem to be the most unhappy, her parents see her unhappy and don't think she should get married, but if she's happy that's all they want. I love her and want to be with her, but I'm starting to have a shadow of a doubt that there might be problems in the future that might not be able to get resolved. I don't want to get married if I'm not 100000% sure that she will be happy. She has trust issues with me (I lied once, but thats it) She dosen't feel like she can depend on me financially (don't know why?, never gave her a reason) Forever I have just told myself this will get better once we're married. We live far apart about 2 hours, and only see eachother once a week, that's why. I feel once we're together every day it will be better, but now I don't know. I don't want to have a failed marriage, I am willing to give 200% but I'm wearing thing on the hope. We still have time, I want to talk to my priest and get some advice, then I need to talk to her. It seems like whenever we have problems, she puts it on me "do you want to get married" "are you sure this is what you want" so that she wouldn't look like the bad guy for calling it of if I decided that I just wasn't in there is what I feel. What are some thoughts on this?

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Wow I think you both need to talk with a minister or someone to help mediate this, but IF you cannot talk about this and really come to a decision now, about how you BOTH feel how is a marriage going to work?

now is the time to stop it,
put it off if you have to.
but if you aren't really positive your both in it "Till death do you part"
then it will be miserable on both of you.
but then IF it is just normal jitters..it is another thing..but sort it out NOW..
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"What God Hath Joined Together Let NO MAN Put Asunder</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Best Wishes!
EarthAngel <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ May 20, 2003, 04:26 AM: Message edited by: SadEyes ]</small>

this might be of help to you before you get married, after the heated discussion in other message board.
please read this and read others there too that you find helpful. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
they will even send them free if you mark what you want and give them a home address. perhaps you and your fiance' can read together do some studys together so when you have children you will bring them up in the knowledge of the Lord! like kids need to be raised. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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