Dear Shewill and Everyone Else,
No other discussion of goals was found in my search. In order to optimize marital bliss, it may be helpful to set goals, under variuos circumstances.
This post is to start a listing of options for goals for improving family life. Ideas for change will flow from the definition of a family goal. Accomplishment is an important feeling, and without goals, we might miss the joy of celebrating a milestone.
Some of my goals, I can think of:
1. Arrive at an equitable concept of sharing the rooms in our house so that family members are not in overlapping struggles.
2. Arrive at a division of labor for household chores, and matching habits, so that one or more family members do not feel they are carrying an unfairly large share of the load.
3. Arrive at an equitable contribution of our 25 year old college student son, who is working part time. Contribution balance should consider recreational time, time on school work, Personal Care time, family chore time, and time at work.
4. Arrive at a fair Budget for our son's balancing recreational expenses, recreational travel expenses, travel expenses to and from work and school, expenses of insurance, and personal savings.
5. Each family member to budget sufficient time and energy to go through stored possessions, clothes, and papers, to see what can be discarded or donated, or make storage more compact, and more re-findable.
6. Avoid procrastination on items that affect other family members.
8. Find pleasant way to negotiate, set and defend family boundaries.
9. Through family interaction, maximize the inspiration for family members personal goals.
10. Find and remember signals for realizing that a breather might be helpful for family relations, and have mechanisms in place to initiate a breather period, with minimal delay or offensiveness.
Quipper
Married 28 years and still struggling
