I've been married for 7 years. We have 2 young boys that are the center of our family. My wife and I have had marital problems for quite a while. We had a councelor on two separate occassions who was not able to help us. If it weren't for my boys I doubt we would still be married. I am not meeting my wife's emotional needs and she is not meeting my needs. I had already come close to divorcing her about 6 months ago but we went to our councelor and my wife said she would do whatever it takes to make the changes that were important to me. My wife is constantly criticizing me or complaining to me about every little thing. She lets things get to her. She is also obsessive/compulsive and this was confirmed by our therapist although my wife couldn't or wouldn't come to grips with it. I believe this disorder causes her to be controlling and very critical. She also seems to have trouble completing certain tasks and she ends up being overwhelmed all the time because of all these things that don't seem to get done. She never has enough time. I work full time and we have part-time help yet we have so much clutter in our bedroom and garage. She also seems to complain about not feeling well most of the time and being tired even though I get the kids ready every day. A few weeks ago the kids got sick and she wasn't feeling well herself so I was up all night for a few nights in a row taking care of them. Well, I caught whatever they had and finally got sick myself. After taking my temperature and having 102 she said that the thermometor was probably broken since I didn' feel warm. I told her I had the chills and she just rolled her eyes and said I'm probably just run down. I don't get sick often, but when I do she is not there for me. She is more concerned about herself and the kids. Anyone that knows her thinks she's the most thoughtful person around. This is true except when it comes to me. Whenever I try to express my concerns with her she does not have the ability to take responsibility for things that she needs to work on. Perhaps 1 in 100 times she will take a little bit of responsibility. Otherwise she talks about her concerns. In the past I have been the one to apologize just so we could move forward, however I can't live this way. I want to have her take responsibiliby. She's a wonderful mom and I know I'm a good dad, but we're not good spouses and I don't see a solution. I don't know what to do, other than get a divorce, which I don't want to do because of my kids. Anyone out there have any ideas...

Oh My God, this is me as well except for the "She will try anything" part. My wife has turned into an angry ice cube and she cares little, if at all for me. My needs are not being met, but I have been meeting her's. That didn't work. I've stood up for my self and now she is sleeping in another room and not speaking at all. I don't know what to do either. Anyone?

Keep meeting her needs. Make sure you figure out what they are and work on them.

My life was similar until W finally got to the point that she agreed she was treating me wrong. Mad at me for everything, cared only about her and the kids.
Since the day she aknowledged this and looked for the cause, we have been seperated because "She loves me but is not In love with me"

You sound like you may be heading down the same road that I took but you are furtunate enough to have looked for help before it gets as bad as it did for me.

Read all the concepts hear and do them. I also recomend Divorce Busting. The web site and the book. It has very similar concepts to MB and may also help you improve things before they can't be improved.

Good luck