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Fallen out of love.
#59245 01/07/04 05:31 AM
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My wife and I are on the edge of a abyss! She says she is not in love with me anymore and that she is not happy with me. I AM TRYING SO HARD I have read and reread His need Her needs and I am following the site but I am in desperate need of help. I cannot tell you the hurt and lonlyness I feel. Any ideas ?? Suggestions? BEGGING FOR HELP! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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#59246 01/07/04 10:11 AM
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I don't usually come to this assumption as quickly as others who have been though it, but what are the chances of her being in a PA or EA.

Perhaps there is OM that is keeping her in the fog with you.
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#59247 01/17/04 02:06 PM
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Chipper, you're holding on way too tight. Be there, be good, but don't be smothering - Give her a chance to admire you from afar. Since she hasn't left you there seems to be much hope. Have you done small things like a flower, a card, etc. once in awhile (without expecting anything in return)? Go slow - find a hobby - make yourself better than ever! And as my 8 year old says, "hugs make life easier". I'm sure your 7 year old will agree - maybe your wife too...
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#59248 01/21/04 01:51 AM
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I can feel for you, 2 weeks ago today my H of 11 yrs, came to be crying that he doesn't feel that love for me anymore, but still loves me. It's been a rollercoaster for me. My sister finally stepped in and called him yesterday and told him he committed to me when we married and committed again when we had kids. It seemed to work a little?? There is no other woman here, so keep that faith, I did and it has resulted in him at least having trust in me. He was not happy with my bold personality and negativity. I am doing everything I can to change those bad traits I had, because if it means losing my marriage, I would rather change. I am afraid he's expecting perfection though, that's scary.

You are not alone, I bought the HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS book yesterday. I can't wait to read it, it all makes sense.
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#59249 01/21/04 03:40 PM
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Chipper...

Have you discussed what she's missing in your relationship together? Do you talk at the feelings level?

You need to let her know how you feel about her and how committed you are to her. Love her back into your life. Be vulnerable with her....share your fears and concerns...let her share if she's willing.

Beemer

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