i just want to hear from other christians in regards to the "anger" issue ...

My hubby has a serious anger problem and he knows it .... to no avail he keeps tripping up....the yelling and carrying on has to stop ...especially over petty things....and the kids watch this too..btw its like he vents cause we are here..

any advice for me ...as his wife ...

i am hurting over this and want healing in this area.....

I asked my W to remind me (in a nice way)when she sees me getting to that point so I can walk away or do something to control it.

im glad that you do that for your wife ...
i would love my hubby to do that too....

Here is a link to a post that I started on Anger Management. There are several recomended books that you may want to look into.

It sounds like your H know that it is a problem. That is important. If he wants to controll the problem, he should seek professional help. If he won't do that, perhaps he will read a book.

You may want to also look into the books for yourself. They may help you learn ways to deal with the problem.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">btw its like he vents cause we are here </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'd like to here a little about what you mean by this. Perhaps there are other routes you can take in preventing the problem from your end.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=34;t=010488

hubbyhugs:
I feel for you, believe me........... I am a Christian, and I was the angry husband and am now in recovery mode. My wife posts on here under Diamonzzz, by the way.

There IS HOPE - let there be no doubt in your mind. If he is aware that he has a problem, that is a big start. There are many things that create rage and angry outbursts in men, but NOT ONE of them can be pinned onto the victim of the rage, such as yourself. You aren't to blame. Things in his life, in his past, and things that he has no tools to handle are to blame - things he needs to face and deal with. I used to tell my wife that I know I am angry, and I have a whole chest full of tools to handle life, but they're the wrong tools............

Make sure you have set some strong boundaries for yourself, and make sure you do not tolerate his behavior. Tell him that if he doesn't stop yelling, you are going out for a walk, or leaving the room or whatever. He has to stop the behavior. Try to convince him to see a friend or pastor or counsellor. Hit the Internet for lots of stuff on anger and abuse issues.

Pray hard, love your man enough to tell the truth and set those boundaries. Give it to God. He wants women and men to be healed and whole.

I hope this is a help, but I will be checking in to see how you are.

OHIT

wish i were home ...

i mean that because we live together as a family i think that he is taking his anger out on us. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

tks ok hon ill try .....

I will take all the advice i can get .... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />