I'm not sure really were to get started. Several years ago I got up in the middle of the night to see why my husband had not come to bed. I caught him looking at a porn site. I express how agree and hurt I was. We talked and he said he had stopped and even started coming to bed when I went to bed, but that slowly ended.

I got up another time and caught him deleted all the sites from the computer. That time I asked him to leave, after crying all nite, I changed my mind and decided to try to make it work again. Anyway this has happened 4 times now. My solution has been to set him up under parental controls with yahoo. I get a monthly report on what sites he goes to and who sends him emails.

My problem now is he is wanting to set each of us (we have 2 teenage children) sign in names on the computer, currently it is automatically logged into as Family acct. I'm afraid if I let him do this he can someway hide his porn addition.

What do I do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<small>[ February 18, 2004, 11:56 AM: Message edited by: sherryd1969 ]</small>

Sherry, this is a problem that many women are dealing with at home. Don't feel like you are alone. I can only give insight from a male point of view. There maybe something troubling him and the computer is a distraction from the real problem. Men use sports, cars, hunting, fishing, and also porn to take there mind off of the real issues that they deal with on a day to day basis. He already knows how it makes you feel, so he tries to hide it. That makes you hurt worse. Not only is he doing soemthing you don't like, you now have a harder time trusting him as well. Do you have any activities that you both enjoy doing together? Are there any stressful things that have changed in his life recently? Is he asking for more space? Time for himself? Telling him what you need will help, but demands will only cause resentmant in the future. Ask him to talk to you openly about what may be bothering him. If he says, "nothing is bothering him", then he needs to figure something out on his own. I read somewhere, "this to shall pass"! God bless you, Al

<small>[ February 18, 2004, 01:40 PM: Message edited by: alduns40 ]</small>