i am looking for somehow to deal with my husband and our constant conflict and trouble in our marriage. we have eight kids together, he except my children to behave and when he points out their attitude , i don't disagree usually i'm the one bring it up to find another way to solve the problem, he tells me i'm not suppose to hold their hands or help them. either they do themselve or suffer. yet when i bring the same up with his children its a instant angry, verbally attack oh your perfect family( it's not just the children) and he except me to turn a blind eye hold their hands and help them through because they don't know how. now his kids give no respect to either of us, i don't exist unless they can get something. yet my children have treated him with respect help out as a family unit. i don't get it. also his family constantly take from us, treat me like dirt, he except me to turn the other cheek because i'm above them. he makes excuses when i push about not wanting to see them. his children and family can't help themselves. he will tell me this conservation is ending and he will verbal attack my family, children or me. i am tired of this and want a understanding and something to follow so i don't have to feel like i have to put up with this because of what he wants. any suggestion on how to apporch this husband of mine