<BR>We both read your reply and I should mention that there was 2 codes I didn't know.I now know 1.low life {she looked bad} 2.shwo-saw her walk out.I was there both times too.My H still insists it was only a game and he didn't mean for all this to get blown up.He went there 4 times alone 20 mins eac<P>h time,I know this is true because I read the calender.I would stare at the calender every minute we were home and I admit I would become more nervous and sad,that's why he through it.By the way this all happened 2 months ago but I still can't forget.Any new thoughts or input I would welcome. Hope your problems are easing up! Thanks

sos68 -- OK, assuming that this really is an innocent game . . . Why was there so much deception on your H's part? How did he come up with this "game" in the first place? Sounds very bizarre to me <P>There have been many discussions on this furom regarding what exactly constitutes an affair. Maybe if you and your H can look back on some of these, it might give you some insight. Anyway, here is how I see what you have described. . .While your H may not have had an affair in the strickest sense, He did engage himself in activities which he felt he had to try and hide from you. When confronted he initially denied anything at all. To me this may not be an affair, but it has obviously caused you a lot of hurt. With that in mind, your H was wrong. He needs to figure out what it is that made him seek this "game." I still feel that counseling would be of benefit to both of you.<P>Thank you for your concern for my W and I. We still have a long way to go. We have come so far, but still have a lot of work left to do.<P>Well I will get off my box now. I hope that something I have said may be of value to you. Take care of each other<P>God Bless