Well...the weekend of Valentines day while out of town, my wife, 6.5 yrs. packed and moved in with her parents. I was consantly acting as she was needed and was saying things like.."if your not happy...pack up and go". Well she did. The hurt is so great that even I didn't realize how much I really truely love her. The 1st day back from my trip...I made an appointtment with a counselor, Deb called me that night and said how proud she was of me for admitting my faults and reaching out for help. We have spoke everyday....really better than when together, done 2lunches, a movie and today she came over and fixed supper followed by a nap together. I've also started back at church with a co worker...I was saved in 98' but have been slipping away. She still tells me she loves me and has never said lets end this...but says she don't know what she wants. She seems to think all my trying is temp. and don't want to go through this again. She has visited the same counselor once now, and I've been there 3. This is the first time I've ever been alone....and have a hard time focusing on anything right now...grocery shopping last night was sad and I'm now seeing how the small things are what makes a great marriage. Please pray that the Lord softens her heart and she finds the love to forgive me. Thanks and lets hear any other advice.

Welder
I am praying for you and your wife. Please choose your words wisely. What ever you say may be held against you. Keep going to church , pray, and read your bible. Best Wishes!!

I saw you also posted in GQII but since there is no infidelity involved I think this is the best place to continue your thread.

Someone in GQII recommended "His Needs, Her Needs" which is an excellent book but in your position I think "Fall in Love, Stay in Love" might be better as it covers Emotional Needs (like HN,HN does) plus it covers Love Busters (LBs), POJA, Radical Honesty, How to Negotiate, the Giver/Taker, etc.

If you and your wife find that Emotional Needs aren't being met in your marriage, then get HN, HN for a more in-depth look at ENs. If one or both of you are guilty of Love Busters, get the book on Love Busters.

This is a painful time for you, I know, but thank goodness you see it as the wake-up call it is! As far as your wife thinking your changes are temporary, well, only time will show whether she's right or not.

Thanks for the prayers....I have just got back results from my Dr. and it seems my testosterone level is way low...he is sending me to a specialist Wed., he said that this really affects my mood and causes depression. Anyone know any details of this?