</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LoverMan:
<strong> For thirty years we've been married. I always tried to communicate that I have NEEDS. My wife
over the years has become more robotic like & less (outwardly) loving. I will help with her chores, play Mr. Mom, Mr. Fixit, and put 'diversity' in our lovemaking. I also have worked 24/5+ for 31 years, non alcholic (not perfect) but pretty darn good. I always kiss her & thank her for a good meal & say I love you. She NEVER does these things. My biggest fault is I love to see her dress HOT & wear nylons under a skirt now & then. She won't do it (she did it years ago). Now she says I am needy, and that this one thing is the OBSTACLE to a good relationship. I really have a deep need to see her in nylons & occasionally dress sexy when we go out. What to do? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey.... I ran into you, earlier....
Anyways... I know I'm still just a kid (24), and I haven't got all the answers, but, man... could I help you a little on this one.
My wife and I had some issues like that. I know she enjoys sex with me, but she gets in these depression fits where she has no desires at all... sometimes for two weeks straight! (man, was that frustrating... especially for someone like me...)
At first, I took it really easy. A while later... it got to me. And not just the sex issue, either. Many things contributed to the problem (not being emotionally open to me, unsupportive, not interested in anything, distant, etc.).
Letting that get to me was one of the biggest mistakes I've made with her. I swear it... if/when she and I are back together... I'll never complain about 'dry spells' again.
Being apart from her like this has taught me that sex is nowhere near as important as I thought it was.
I dunno if that helps... but, I hope you don't have to learn it the same way I did.
peace, love, and tight corners...
-Jarod, the Formula 1 fan
