Hi I am new here… I posted in another thread maybe the wrong one.
I have been married for 32 years, my life is not in its best moment, I though several times in leaving my wife, but I know my 15 year old daughter would really get hurt… here is something about situation. I hope you understand my English.
26 years ago my wife had an affair with my brother, that lasted for about a year, everybody knew, and I suspected some, but even I saw many things that made realize that it was true I wasn’t strong enough to live my wife, because I before that I also had an affair with another woman, so in my mind I thought “ maybe I deserve that, for my behavior”, and all I prayed to God was to have my wife back.. anyway my wife didn’t know about my previous affair, time passed and one day me and my sister in law (my brother’s wife) made a plan to catch them and I worked, so my brother confessed everything, but even then my wife denied all, and I made the mistake of forgiven her without her asking me for forgiveness, so for her it was like nothing. After my brother left the country with his wife my wife didn’t even bother to ask for forgiveness and she kept going like nothing happened, but our intimate relations were almost gone, she didn’t want me close to her, and I had almost to beg to have some intimate time with her. Time passed and the situation kept going without much changes, we had another son ( not planned) and I kept my situation of begging for sex, she always had an excuse, headache, tired, not in the mood and the most popular: I am not taking contraceptives…some other events happened that made fell that she was having an affair with some other guy, she always denied, even now, so needles to say I lost my authority at home and my identity and became her slave, and didn’t live her because of my children, after all that, one more none planned pregnancy brought a beautiful girl, and things got a little better between us, until we became Christians and in one of our marriage encounters at church, our pastor said that we should confess to our spouses all our past sins if we wanted to renew our bows, and I did, I told my wife about the affair I had a long time ago, and ask for her forgiveness and in that moment she took it very calmed, she said she forgive me and that we will be delivered from any thing between us, but some months later she exploded and really took a really bad attitude against me, is like she was possessed… she yelled at me, she said she couldn’t forgive me, and every time we had an argument, she brought back the subject, until now, up to this day, she hasn’t forgiven me, we have been 2 and half years without sex, and all she says is: “I am ok like that, I don’t need sex, I can live the rest of my life without it…” "I can't forgive you"...it has been really hard for me to keep going, since I am the kind of person that used to have sex almost every day.
I don’t know what to do, I am ready to leave, and look for some attention, all my refuge is Jesus, she doesn’t want to get counseling, and she doesn’t listen to anything related to that matter, I lost my self esteem, and really can’t go on.
I need some advice, to keep talking and getting this thing out of my chest.

4him-Igo

I posted to you on your other thread. Try posting this in Emotional Needs. It's the most active.

Hey 4him-Igo, I am really sorry for you, but you must keep talking, if not to your wife, talk to your Priest or to a counselor, but keep talking. I am also going thought almost the same thing, but My W got caught. And she was also with my brother and 2 other guys at the same time. I guess your W is not strong enough to confess up to what she has done to you. I guess no one really knows how it feels when some does something like this to us, but us, if things are that bad maybe you can leave temporary and see how you feel about it, and maybe it would be good your wife too.
Remember keep talking
Spin 86

Thank you spin 86 for the answer and also to jilliana, I am going to post at emotional needs like she says, anyway as an update, things have not changed, I am still thinking in leaving my house, but I haven't figure out about my daughter, and my son they don't want to live with her and I wouldn't like them to stay at home, they can´t stand their mother, I am trying this week to see a counselor like my last resource and see if my wife wants to go with her, I will keep you informed.

4him-Igo

Does not sound like your wife "got" the whole Chritianity thing. One of the most important tenents is forgiveness.

Hang in there.