My Girlfriend and I have been going out for about a yr. A few months after we were going out we got in so many fights all the time and when she would get mad at me she would say that we're done. We usually wouldn't break up she was just saying that but, if we did break up it was very short. Well, one time I ended up having sex while we were broke up with a girl I knew. Then my gf and I got back together a few days later. We were broke up for about a week. The only reason I did that was bc I was tired of us fighting and her always breaking up with me.
Well, another time things happened kinda like that but didn't break up but all I did was kiss another girl and that it. I felt so bad. I never told her though. Many months went by and I never thought about doing it again bc I knew that would never happen. She ended up finding out from my ex bestfriend bc he saw his chance to move in. She broke up with me for about a month.
Right now we're back together but still fight so much. She says I don't treat her the way she wants to be treated. I pretty sure I could say the same a few times about how she is with me. She doesn't trust me and I don't know how to fix it. I have gave up so much for her since all this happened. There is so much more I could tell you but I won't right now. What would should I do?

Ryan

Hi Ryan,
What should you do? Take a good look at yourself and learn as much from this relationship as you can about what you do and do not want in your lifelong partner. No, fighting is not a normal thing in a healthy relationship.
Take your knowledge from this relationship and apply it to your future relationships.

Why would you stay in such a negative relationship? Why do you two keep getting back together?
If you are not ready to move on, apply as many marriage builder concepts to this relationship as possible, but realize that you two are simply not marriage material as a unit. You do not have the key ingredient for marriage...respect. Don't forget, it takes two to fight.
Either walk away and really reflect on what you will bring to your next relationship and what your boundaries will be or if you will stay with her, use this opportunity to better understand the marriage builders concepts.

Take care,
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