Just an Update:
Thanks to this forum I have gathered myself and have started doing things to better my financial situation. My H still cannot see how his obsession with an internet forum is killing our marriage. I have these people calling my house now threatening him with killing my kids. sigh. I had to get the police involved...sigh. How embarrassing for adults to get on like this. sigh.

I have started to re-organize my financial affairs and soon will be able to manage on my own. I love him but I really do not like him anymore for the undue stress he is constantly causing me. The doc put me on Paxil two months ago for a 6 month trial and it seems to be working but the thought of being on it is stressing me out too although the pain in my chest has gone and i am coping much better these days.

I will never beg a man for anything. Especially his affection. If he can't see that time is all we want from him (and money) then so be it. So sad it's come to this....but I feel good about myself again and that is a start. His time is getting short but I feel I've been letting him get away with doing squat for too long.