Hello all, I habe been married going on 7 years and have two wonderful kids. In the past year my life has been all distorted due to several factors. first i steppedout side my marriage leaving my spouse completely destroyed. Second I am currently deployed in the war on terrorism and there is nothing I can do from a far and distant land. Due to outside forces all of the information was discovered thus leaving my spouse wanting to completely walk away from the marriage. I have admitted that I messed up, but convincing her that I am on the path to repair my mistakes is where I am having the problem. Third I am frustrated with myself for letting my emotions get in the way of my smart thinking. So in closing, what can I do to help start the healing and the repair of what was once ( I still think it can be ) a wonderful marraige. Once again this is the result of my wrong doings. L5844

aww L5844,

Im in a similar boat, and if your really wanting to move on and repair your marriage, check out the boards at Emotional Needs... there will be a much larger audience and you will get alot of feedback... repost over there and see if you get an answer.
As I am also the cheater caught, and apparently not yet in the right frame of mind according to some of the members, I shall not advise <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> but I can wholeheartedly recommend you post over there.

Or better yet copy your post and create a new thread in the Infidelity - General Questions II section of this site.

You will be dealing more with folks that have been on both sides of infidelity issues.

why did you do it? i on the other hand was cheated on by my seven year spouse and i can't understand why someone you love, and loves you in return could hurt you in such a way