This is my first time on here and i am not sure where to start. My husband and i have been married now for a year and a half and I don't know what to do… A long time ago I made the mistake of not telling him about someone I had been with in my past and he asked me about it and I didn't tell him the truth he then found out through a friend 4 months before we got married. He was hurt and very upset but we seemed to get past it….now he has been very distant and things haven't been going our way (our 8 month old puppy died) He began wanting to spend more time alone and he had told me I needed to spend more time with my friends so I did….I went out with a firend and after I came home he asked where I had gone and I told him and he then asked if any guy hit on me and I said no….He then received an email from "someone" the next day that I was in a dance club and some guy hit on me when I was dancing….He got so mad that I hadn't informed him when he had asked…. A guy did approach me and I held up my hand showed him my ring and he walked away. I do not feel that I did anything wrong besides not telling him right away about the guy but i didn't think anything of the guy that approached me and certainly didn't feel that i was being hit on. He says now he is having a hard time trusting me with anything that I say….and doesn't know if he wants to be with me….All we seem to do is fight. and i don't want my marriage to end over this but he says he can't get passed it. Please help.

I don't know if this will help you or not but most recently I went through something along the same line as you. I have been married 9 years and one night my husband and I had a fight and I took off - was gone for quite a few hours. He then got it into his head that I had been cheating on him. Anyway to make a long story short for two months we did not live together as man and wife - seperate sleeping arrangements. During this time he kept on saying the same thing that although he loved me he didn't think he could get passed it. I kept on saying the same thing get passed what nothing happened. Well everyday day in and day out I kept on acting like nothing was wrong - it was very difficult. He now makes a joke of it every once in awhile - but I know deep down he knows that nothing happened that night. I think some men are very insecure and when we break our normal routine it causes a question to pop up in their mind. Try reading co-dependant no more - my cousellor recommended it and it help me. The problem you are experiencing is his problem - not yours. Therefore don't get caught up in the battle. Let him battle it out with himself while you go about your day same as usual.

Thank you very much for sharing your experience with me. It's nice to know I am not the only one going through this or that has gone through it. Thanks again!