this is my first time on this board so I'll give a little description about my problem. My husband and I have been married for 11yrs, we've been together for 14yrs, and have 2 beautiful children. My husband is a amazingly loving and wonderful man with him I wanted for nothing, he never abused me, never cheated and always wanted to spend all his time with me. For him there was nothing in his world but his children and his wife.. While he wants to spend all his time with me I found this very suffocating, I couldn't do anything without him, If i did then he felt it was because I don't love him as much as he loves me. Therefore this built alot of resentment in me, about 2yrs ago I started an affair with someone from my past,and left my husband and children I thought i was inlove with this person and that he loved me, I however figured out that the only person i wanted was my husband and my marriage, so I stopped all communication with this peerson 2mos ago. I have gone back to my husband and told him I want us to reconcile and has agreed to try. he had however started seeeing someone else and he refuses to end the relationship while we we try to reconcile citing that this person is helping him find himself in some way. he states that I am who he wants to be with I am who he will end up with but he needs to play this out all the while spending time with me. I do not agree with this set up because i don't believe he is giving 100% to reconciling. he says this person does not mean as much as I believe and should not put so much stock in his "friendship" with her. I don't when he intends to tell he about us trying and I feel he is courting trouble with this situation if we are to work on our marriage 100%....I don't know what to do!!! He doesn't want to stop seeing me, but he also refuses to stop seeing her right now also. Help me Please. Sorry for the length
Thank you for you advice
