Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2004
Posts: 22
Junior Member
|
OP
Junior Member
Joined: Sep 2004
Posts: 22 |
IM A 32 YR OLD WITH 3 CHILDREN.I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 12YRS. I JUST RECENTLY FOUND OUT THAT MY HUSBAND HAS HAD AN AFFAIR AND HAS ANOTHER CHILD. OUR MARRIAGE FOR THE PAST FEW YEARS WASNT A MARRIAGE..MY HUSBAND WORKS OUT OF TOWN,ABOUT 2 HOURS AWAY AND HE WOULD STAY UP THERE FOR DAYS AT A TIME. I DIDNT THINK ANYTHING OF IT BECAUSE I TRUSTED HIM AND HIS PAYCHECKS PROVED THAT HE WAS AT WORK. WHEN HE CAME HOME ALL WE DID WAS FIGHT ABOUT THE KIDS AND MONEY. WE DIDNT ANY OF THINGS THAT WE WERE SUPPOSE TO DO, SO I DECIDED I WASNT GOING TO SIT HOME AND WAIT ANYMORE, SO I STARTED TO GO OUT WHEN HE COME HOME.I NEEDED A BREAK FROM ALL THE DRAMA.I WENT OUT WITH FRIENDS, WE WENT TO HAVE A FEW DRINKS,BUT I NEVER THOUGHT OF HAVING AN AFFAIR BECAUSE EVEN THO I DIDNT HAVE A MARRIAGE I WAS STILL MARRIED.MY HUSBAND TELLS ME HE WANTS TO WORK IT OUT AND IS TELLING TO ME TAKE ALL THE TIME I NEED BUT I JUST KNOW IF I CAN GET OVER HIM HAVING ANOTHER CHILD WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS SUPPOSE TO BARE HIS CHILDREN. I DONT KNOW IF I CAN GET OVER THE BETRAYAL. CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE...
THANK YOU
MRS HURTNOHIO
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069 |
Welcome to marriagebuilders. Probably a better place for you to post is on the Pregnancy and Child Forum. All of the folks there are going what you are going through right now.
They will help and support you.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Aug 2004
Posts: 12
Junior Member
|
|
Junior Member
Joined: Aug 2004
Posts: 12 |
I'm so sorry your having so many complications in your marriage. Having a child outside a marriage is an enormous responsibility and certainly a marriage breaker. BUt if you decide to try and work this out with hubby, I'm sure you know that he and you will have the other child in your lives forever as well as the child's Mother. Your life will change and it will affect your marriage. I wouldn't even consider staying in the marriage unless we both went to therapy. You both need some counsiling and help to learn how to deal with this. The mother of his child is gonna be around as well, so how will you deal with her? Maybe she will need help too. I feel for you and can't tell you what to do but there is a lot of ground to cover if you and he want to work this out. You could make therapy a must if he wants to be back in your life. Stand your ground, what ever you decide.
SaraLee
|
|
|
|
1 members (TALKINGNONSENSE),
470
guests, and
46
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,623
Posts2,323,503
Members71,977
| |
Most Online3,224
May 9th, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
