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i am really confused right now
my husband wanted to leave me 6 months ago but we manged to work things out and moved to a new state and things have been going really well.
i have been eaning good money him not so good
but never the less.
i am 7 weeks unplanned pregnant 29 yrs old i dont wont an abortion but now my husband says he feels trapped and is scared like just 6months ago he wanted to leave now he has a baby i am mad because for 6 months he has seemed so happy now he says he still sometimes thinks about leaving
i dont know what to do he is 32 years old and is acting like a child
anyone have advice
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by layla22:
<strong> ...my husband wanted to leave me 6 months ago but we manged to work things out ...</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hi Layla
Welcome. What were the reasons that your H wanted to end your marriage?
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Hi Layla,
I'm just over 9 weeks right now and am already understanding the emotional drain of pregnancy alone. Add on this kind of frustration and insecurity and I don't think that I could handle it. Hang in there.
I don't know if I can help at all. The thing that comes to mind first is that life doesn't always go as planned. You are pregnant and he has a responsibility and will hopefully appreciate that responsibility rather than resent it. Keep working on the relationship.
LISTEN to his concerns. This was unexpected and he needs to work through this new development in his own way.
Does he want you to get an abortion? Has he said that to you directly? What are his expectations? What are your expectations?
It sounds like he is blaming you in a way. Does he think you became pregnant on purpose? If so, that would explain why he feels so trapped. Perhaps some of his friends are suggesting this and he's really confused about what to believe.
He is probably very concerned about money since he isn't bringing in the dough. You'll have to work together to figure out how the finances will work whether it is just coping with the maternity leave or if that includes you changing your work responsibilities for an extended period of time.
What a huge change of lifestyle, right? 6 months ago he had one foot out the door and now his life is going to change so much. Big flip! Think of all of the ways your lives will change...make a list...and POJA each of the changes with your husband. He's probably terrified.
Best of luck! Take good care of yourself. Your baby needs you!
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