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Hi
I am a male 30 years of age married for 8 years with two great kids.
I have a great marriage and I love my wife .......
Recently for no apparent reason we had a conversation about past romances. Me and my wife were both virgins when we met but I decided to find out how far she did go with anyone before me. She on the other hand did not want to know any of my past encounters at all, maybe I should have kept it that way myself............. Well she told me there was one guy before me that she fooled around with Like kissing petting and some masturbating if thats what they call it, like he touched her and she touched him (no climax at all as she states) this is still finger penetration.
After hearing this I was shocked but took it as best I could because this was before me. But Now almost four months later I find myself consumed with the thoughts and images of this happening to my wife.
I also before my wife have been with girls in that way.Can someone answer why I feel this way after four months and if this is not normal should I seek medical attention. I dont want to feel this way anymore
Some times I feel like the feelings are going away than they just come back. Could this be a complusive disorder or am I just plain stupid....
Can you shed some light on this very troubling issue in my life right now
I dont want to screw up my marriage and life for this.....
Littleman
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Truths, as hard as they are to take, are still that " TRUTHS".You asked your wife questions about her before meeting you and she freely trusted you with her truths.I think you need to focus on the fact that they were before meeting and marrying you... and let it go
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Betty
I know your 100% correct but still those images are in my mind and I need to work on them to go away...........
Crazyboy
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