My wife of 10years had an affair. Ive known for one year and a half. The past year and a half has been up and down. We will get along then we fight bigtime. This last bigtime fight she left me I have three children. We are seperated and I am miserable. I sorted through my feelings the past three days and I know I love her so much its killing me inside. I dont know what to do she says she loves me but has no feelings for me and doesnt want to be with me. We had marriage counseling after the affair and the Marriage counselor said she needed to break away from her parents and she is there right now with them. She quit going to the counseling before it was over. Just 2 weeks ago she left a card in my truck and told me how much she loved me. Now she says she is numb and doesnt want me anymore. I see her coming back to me then instantly pulling away like she is convincing herself she doesnt want to be with me. Now she is saying I am smothering her trying to work it out. I dont want to divorce I know for sure. Please someone who know help me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Are you still going to counseling? If not you should continue. Give yourself a time frame. If she cant make up her mind in that time you need to move on. You can not keep yourself or your kids in limbo forever.

Good Luck