Hello! I am new to this site, and to this all together, and i don't know if i am asking this at the right place. Here is my situation. My H and i have been married for 1 1/2 yrs, together for 7 1/2.
I recently found the OW # in his truck, while looking for my cd. He supposedly asked the OW for her #, and he tried to call her several times. She got a freaked out, and blocked his #. When i asked him why he said it was nice to be noticed.
I know that there was no physical contact, and barely any at all, but the idea was there, and i would like to know how i am supposed to get over all of this. My H is very remorsful, and knows he was wrong. I just don't know how to get over the hurt. I know i need to find out what in our relationship is lacking, and why he did this but i don't know the right questions to ask, and i don't want to ask too much and hurt myself even more. It is to the point now where i am having nitemares, and waking up with that feeling of hurt all over again! Any responses would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

Goodone,

You might want to post in " just found out " Or " General Questions. " Those 2 get a bit more traffic.

Being a FWS myself I can tell you what was lacking in my marriage, but you need to ask your husband. Getting the truth from him now will not hurt as bad as finding out he is having an affair later.

You are definately on the right track of finding what was lacking in your relationship. Ask him point blank what it is in your marriage that he wants from you.. what needs are you not meeting of his.. I wasn't meeting my husbands needs of affection and i wish he just would have told me instead of me finding him developing a "friendship with someone else.. It's understandable how hurt you must feel right now but try and be positive and look at it as a wake-up call and try and get to the bottom of your problems before more damage is done. I'm having a very hard time getting over the hurt so i'm not one to give you advice on that.. just try and be strong...