My wife and I have been separated for 4 months and we have been seeing a councilor. I am a person that has been controlling in the past but I have come along way.
My wife has the children on the weekdays and I have them on the weekends. She calls me at 11:00 the night before she is about to leave on a Thursday trip to ask me to pick up the kids on Friday and she has someone taking care of them on Thursday. She will miss one of our councilling appointments to do this and I'm very dissappointed about this because I was not even consulted about this at all. Do I have a right to be a little upset?

I think before I got upset I would look at the whole picture.

How have the appointments been going? Whats the trip for? Did you know about the trip ahead of time?

Hi there - you state "you have been a little controling in the past". Perhaps this is a pay back to you - she is the one now who has control not you. For most men to admit that they have been a "little" bit controlling - I would imagine that at times you were a whole lot controlling. Give her a little space and don't try to control her life - you are seperated for a reason. Right now for the time being what she does or doesn't do is really none of your business. It is not like she changed her plans with you - she made arrangements for the kids on Thursday night - right? So give her the space she needs right now and DON'T try to control the situation - because point blank you can't. If you want this woman back in your life - then let her be her own person. You can't make someone do what you want - sorry but you have to give a bit to get back what you want in this life.