Update since Thursday night I slept on the couch, when the alarm went off at 3 am - that is the time he gets up to go to work - I got up off the couch and went through to the bedroom and went to bed. He was extremely noisy - in and out of the bedroom I ignored him totally - pulled the covers over my head etc.. He left for work and I got up. He always phones me several times in the morning he does a couple of early morning shunts in town (truck driver) and then he goes across the boarder. Needless to say he didn't call. He always calls me when he gets back in town - normally around 12 or so. I fought the urge to call him. At 2:45 pm my phone rang at work it was him. Very short and to the point - I will be home after work and I will pack a few things. My response was okay. He was much later getting home than usual in fact i was starting to wonder if he was going to come home at all. When he came in no words were spoken I was on the computer - he really dislikes that I spend time on the computer. I never go on line when he is home because he hates it so much. Well he was here for about five minutes. The things he packed up don't even make a lot of sense. A few clothes no hair brush no tooth brush no razor. this morning I noticed that his work telus mike recharger is still here and plugged in. I think he is trying to top my "get out of here". I suspect all day yesterday he waited for me to call him and I didn't. Most of the time I am the peace maker even when he is at fault. Fact is I hate fighting so I try to clear the air - but not this time. In the past when he has said and started packing I have tried to talk to him - but I didn't this time. I think where I am at right now is anger and i have reached the end of my rope. His whole life has been spent running away from things that is his pattern. the next move is up to him he has to decide where he wants to be and what he wants out of life. I am scared to death because i do love this man but i just can't take the emoitonal abuse anymore, I can't be the strong one anymore. Fact is if he isn't here it won't be long before the banker comes in if you know what i mean. I can't even list the house talked to a real estate friend even though the house is in my name - it is matrimonal - he has to sign the listing too. At this point I don't want to call him - i am trying so hard to hold on. What do you think i should do now?