what do you do when your mate lies to you just about everything? Do you let it go or should you make a big thing about it? And if it's on going where do you go from there? Totally confused.

Mira -my H lied for almost 2 yrs about everything and about nothing. He got so confused that he even lied about his lies. I just withdrew and waited to catch im and I did. They always make mistakes and you will know when its time. What do you suspect anyway?? Does he have OW ? Or is he just lying about anything.

In my experience, you can make a big deal about it, afterall, if he lies about little things, does he lie about BIG things? BUT in my experience, and I am going through this now too, it doesn't matter if you catch him or not. He'll keep doing it, keep lying, and lying some more. It will never end. I've actually heard that some H's lie and then know they did something wrong, so lie to themselves until THEY believe it, so then when you argue about it, its a genuine reaction that they can say, would I have acted like that if I was lying? Know what I say, YES! People over react like that ONLY when they are lying. Just keep record of all things that you think are lies and when he slips up, show him the proof. How he reacts is going to tell you whether or not this is something to continue on dealing with, let go, or Let Him GO. depends on how deep those lies go.... white, or BIG?