Is it wrong to snoop throw your mates things if you have a bad feeling about something going on?

I am new to this forum and this is my first reply. I came here especially for this reason. I tend to be suspicious of my spouse and for no good reason. I don't have the answer, if no one does maybe we can talk thru it.

Be careful with the snooping. I am alomst undetectable to her but everybody makes mistakes. I also would like to warn you that anything you may find may have been placed there for you to find. Wy wife has no idea that I have seen the love note in her purse I intend to keep it that way. It was obviously planted and I will not fall for it. I did feel bad about it and afterwards I still had no idea what was going on. I also used a keylogger program on our computer. I got nothing out of it execept a great view into her mind and emotions. Again I feel bad about this but she was not talking to me and I needed info in order to proceed. Internet history is also good to look through if you must look for something. I found out that my wife had read my email from e-harmony.com (just did the profile nothing else) she thought that I was looking for a relationship. As soon as she read the email she went off to the website and got a membership and started looking for me. I was not there because I had not lied about my marrital status like she had. After closing that account she went off to many other dating sites looking for me. I know she was looking for me because all of the guys she was bringing up fit my general description. After all of this I am back to the beginning really I know little to nothing about anything and feel alot worse about having done all of this. The only thing I can tell you is to be careful because if you are caught you will pay the price. Sneek in sneek out pray they don't see you........

I forgot to answer your question! I would say that it is wrong 99% of the time and a grey area at best the rest of the time. I would not go through this again it was just not worth the risk. I will have to say not to try it unless you REALLY have to know something. Still I would not advise you to do any more snooping. The answers you seek will come to you in their own time.

Well, I snooped. That's how I found out the truth. I am not a snooper by nature but certain things just weren't right, such as the amount of time my husband was spending on his cell phone. And all the times I saw him checking his cell phone. Snooped and found that his cell bills went from 47.00 per mo to anywhere between 150.00 and 180.00 per month. That's a lot of calls paying 45 cents a minute just to talk to her!! I snooped further and a gift for her hidden up in the ceiling tiles in our basement. I snooped further and turned on his old cell phone and lo and behold a text message came through from her - a very steamy one at that.
I had suspecte for months and did not snoop. All it took was a little snooping and there was my answer.
My thought is that he is MY husband and I have a right to know what he is up to.

I'm very pro snooping. Secrets are NOT a good thing in a marriage. If I hadn't snooped, I'd have probably never figured out what was wrong with my marriage. So I've definitely benefitted from that decision.

Just be sure that you want to know the truth.

It's wrong. I did it and I am now paying a dear price. I was afraid something was going on with my wife and a guy from my kids school. I was great at snooping. I had her voicemail password, email password, and dug through her stuff. Well I found one little shred of 'evidence' a 'suggestive' voicemail on her cell phone. It was him saying 'hi just seeing if you're out and about'. I was pissed and read may too much into it. Well a couple of days later I ran into his wife and told her my suspicions. Now his marriage is in trouble, and mine is shot to hell. I had to confess to all the snooping too.

So in short - I unjustly accused my wife of an affair, told the 'other' mans wife, and 2 days before Christmas. Add to that my wife was 'out of love' with me in the first place and how can it spell anything else than divorce.

Just waiting on her decision - we have 3 kids to think about.

My W just looked though my stuff , yesterday and found a fone that i had been ringing some numbers on, as i thought i may have been losing her to another, Male guess what it was looking good for us, now i don't know if we'll ever get back together, as she has already started to move her stuff out <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> I said to her it was only cause i love her and thought i was losing her to some one else, but no good BUGGER,SH##

Snooping is not always alright. Some people are paranoid, and others have real reasons. You thought his actions changed, adn they did, then found out your suspicions were correct, not everyone is right though and it does ruin marriages. I catch my husband in little lies all the time, and its to the point where, even though he does not stop, he admits to EVERYONE that I do not need to snoop, I always just know everything and its annoying, but oh well. The way I see it is trust is the main core of a relationship, number two to love, and if someone violates it with their actions, then they deserve to be checked on, snooped on and so forth. Be honest adn trustworthy and those things usually don't happen.