I am a 26 year old mother of two and a husband, we have been married for almost 4 years and have been together for 6. At the beginning everything was going so good, we got along great and everything was just fun and happy. Here is where everything began, on our wedding day!!! He had a hangover because the night before he went out all night drinking with his friends, and that was understandable. The day we got married, he hardly talked to me and got so trashed, almost to the point where it felt like he didn't want to remember the day. From then on, everything went like that, every major holiday, he wouldn't get me anything or do anything for me, my birthdays were always last minute ideas and gifts, sometimes I would have to plan my own birthday things to do. He has a brother that is always in our business (as well as all of his family) and one day he and I got into an argument right in front of my husband and my brother-in-law said some really bad things to me. My husband just sat there and didn't say a word, he didn't even stand up for me, and that was not the first time, whenever anyone has anything to say about me, he doesn't defend me. He is in the Army now and we are living in North Carolina with him and I thought that everything would get better but if anything, our fighting happens almost everyday and when we are not fighting, he's upstairs and I'm downstairs, and vice versa. I told him that I didn't think our marriage was going to work, but he refuses to either give me a separation or try to make things better. I've tried all that I could, I left everything I knew to be with him and he doesn't seem to want to see me happy. I know I'm not making any sense right now, but I'm so sad and lonely because I have a husband who does not think I am special enough to make our marriage an enjoyable enough.
