Me (26) and my girl (24) we had our arguements and the pushing and shoving but always saw past these. over the past 2 years and more recently past few weks we have spoken of holidays, More new money coming in. and just looking forward to the future. We did a Karaoke Gig every week which was starting to get popular and we enjoyed it because we entertained the crowd together.

Untill last saturday. Id just been out with my father as i usually do and bought her an expensive gift. I rang her mothers where she was to tell her id had a surprise. I got a mouthload of abuse of her mother about she doesnt want to see me any more and not to go near the house or anything. she mentioned about our flat not being on the tidy side.

I go up to our flat and find all her things gone. Just spaces where her clothes, belongings and pictures of us were there. Obviously i was gobsmacked at this and never moved out the flat that night. Just sat there looking at a picture of my girl in disbelief

On tuesday i arranged for some flowers to be delivered to her mums house. i set for her mum explaing that if i know what ive done then id work through it. I loved her daughter so much. The other set for my loved one. With a card pleading with her to thing about the pain shes causing me.

I didnt know that her mother then knocks at my parents door and gives the flowers to my mother with the statement that my girl wasnt interested.

Only a day later i get a message on my answerphone from my girl asking me not to do anything stupid, get on with my life. i could tell she was filling up at this point. She said that she still loved me as well. phone went dead then.

I managed to speak to her last night. We laughed at a poem i created just for her outlining our time together and the ups and downs weve had. I asked her to reconsider if she still loves me. She agreed that yes she still loves me but would lose her family if we were to get back together again. I dont understand their familys motives. They dont exactly take account of her feelings on the whole and over the past 2 years the times ive had her in my arms in tears over something they have done or said to her is unreal. Why change the habit of a lifetime now?

Ive wrote her a letter explaining this situation and im sure she would agree with it. we had so much going for us this was so much out the blue that its left me with no point in living any more. We were like chalk and cheese and inseperable. I think the last 2 years. we have only been apart 5 days in the same week. Now this is killing me.

Im not eating, Not sleeping, I cant stop shaking and feel like a bus has hit me.I know she still loves me and I love her dearly. But what would i do in this situation. I wont be able to talk to her parents. I know they wouldnt listen at all. Ive explained that if she thinks about it what would she be actually be losing in her family. They use her in many different ways and her nephews are the carrot in front of the donkey.

I have now got to go and do a Karaoke gig alone and try and make people enjoy themselves whereas my life has fallen apart.

I dont know how i can go on without her now. I feel empty inside and want the pain to end. Do i write to her parents telling them how much love i have for their daughter? I dont know. I have considered ending my life now as i have no aims. no point to life. No juliet.

<small>[ March 04, 2005, 08:17 AM: Message edited by: aladinliverpool ]</small>

If there was literally pushing and shoving in the relationship, perhaps her family feels that there's abuse and that their doing the right thing for their daughter.

Do you know any other motive for splitting you two up?

C