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Hi there, I have been to this website before but never to this forum. I thought this might be the right place to get some good advice. My marriage was on the rocks a year and a half ago because of the conflict between my mother, and my wife. I severed my relationship with mom and the rest of the family at the time. My marriage got better than it ever had been. My wife stop being combative, and became very loving toward me, however inside I felt guilty for not speaking to my family, and missed them. Well recently my dad had a heart attack, he survived but is slow in recovering, since then I have been going to visit them without my wife because she still does not feel comfortable around my family. Last week I paid them a visit, while my wife was out shopping, and I brought my daughter along, when my wife found out she blew up at me, because my mom had used my daughter as a pawn at one point. Now she is talking divorce if I continue to see my family. I told her if I was going to be held to those conditions then I would no longer be able to visit her family. Her reply was that her family had never done anything as bad as my family to us, which is total bull, and that if I wasn’t going to go visit her family we aren’t going to last. So tonight we’ve arranged to have a talk over dinner minus our child for her protection of course. The problem is when I tell her how I feel she closes up on me, and refuses to validate my feelings. How do I get my point across? Is this marriage worth saving?

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MD

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It seems like you're trying to run before you crawl. It doesn't sound like the fundmental issues have been addressed. Avoiding and such are signs that the root of the problem is still there.

So it seems like the conversation will be very difficult to have, since both parties are not embracing the topic at hand.


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