Previously, my husband of almost 3 years brought up a few things that were bothering him about our marriage and our lives in general. He thought life was getting too monotonous, and we were not getting out with friends enough. There were other things too. He feels as if he has done nothing with his life, and that he needs to do more than what he does in his every day life. I understand him, and want to help...but he says this is something he wants to work out himself. I have told him time and time again how much I love him and how I'll always be here for him. I have even been babying him a bit, which I don't do very often. I think he is noticing how much I'm trying, but I really don't get any reaction. I was just wondering if anyone out there could tell me what I could do to help him move past this. I want to have my loving, happy & cheerful husband back...not this depressed, unsatisfied, & grumpy man that has shown himself the last 3 weeks.

Hi Stacey:<p>Just posted my own problems under "Separated, trying to reconcile" While we were at my wife's Grandma's funeral, my sister-in-law slipped a write-up (man's version for me and the woman's version to my wife, her younger sister)I strongly suggest you go and read at this site. I am hoping you and your husband (even more important) will take the time to read. I have been doing alot of reading/writing in the last several months. This article really touched me. I hope it works for him too. If you have trouble getting at it write to me and I will send it to you. Either way I would like to hear how you make out? Good luck. Go to www.sigler.org/roach<p>Gary