My husband and I have only been married for 1 year. About a month ago I had to go away for 3 weeks for work. During that time my husband began spending time with his co-workers. He is a bartender, so most of their time is occupied by drinking alcohol. When I returned he started to act like he didn't want to be home with me and didn't enjoy the things we did together. The only thing he found to be fun was going out drinking with his friends until 4 am in the morning. We fought about it, I tried just to be accepting, and he even tried to stop. But after 8 days of not going out he coudn't control his urge. His father is an alcoholic and I believe this is happening to him too.. Three weeks ago, he moved in with his friends. He has told me that he loves me, misses me, and is hurt about the whole thing, but doesn't want to come home. I want to save my marriage, but don't really know what to do. I have left him alone and not communicated with him at all, in hopes that he would realize how much he misses me.. Two of his friends have even called me concerned about drinking. They both said he is drinking in excess and is doing it all the time. My husband told me that the reason he wants to be separated is because he doesn't want to have to think about anyone, but himself. I so much want to make this work, but am I hoping for something that isn't going to happen? He is only 23 and I know that he feels that he missed out on something because he was married.