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Kimberly,<BR> I am going through the same thing you are right now wiyh the exception I'm 8 hours away from my husband.The good news is you still have a chance to let him see the positive changes un yourself.<BR> Obvisouly, not all is lost he is going to counseling with you,that does mean something.I recently got advice to read "Love Must Be Tough" I thought it was going to be like all the other books but it's not.It really gave me a boost,myhusband has said the exact words your husband has said to me. it hrts so bad because your first response is going to be to grab ahold of him.What in return may make him run further away from you!! I am going to give your some phrases you should remember or keep in your purse like I have.<BR> <BR> "If you love something very much,let it be free<BR>If it does not return,it was never meant to be<BR>If it does return,Love it forever!<P> "You can spend your whole life chasing a butterfly,but if you just sit still and relax you'll notice it'll land right on you!<BR> <BR>These sayings have kept me a little more stronger,to deal with what we are going through.Just keep your head up and show him that you have self respect and will make it through whatever hell he may put you through.You are not alone in this remember that.

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