Does this make any sense?<P>I've been living on and off with my girlfriend for the last four years. We have set a wedding date and everything is in the works, but I am still not sure. We are going to a pre-marriage counselor next week.<P>I miss my girlfriend when I am away, but I'm not sure if this is simply a case of being without a woman or her or what? We have a few things in common, but not a lot. One person told me this is a case of thinking the grass is always greener on the other side.<BR>I feel love for my three nieces, my parents, but I just don't know what I feel for this woman. <P>Question: Did many of the participants feel totally in love before marriage?<P>How many had doubts which they wish they had listened to before their marriage?<P>How many are glad they overcame their reservation (or cold feet) and are happy with their decision.<P>P.s. The opposite can be true and thus I hope women would offer their insight as well.<P>