Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
| Tax-deductible Donation | Site Tour | Meet Dr. Harley | Basic Concepts | Q&A Columns | Articles | Guidance Forum

Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Forums Calendar Active Threads
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Tough and Tougher
#60784 08/20/99 03:40 PM
Joined: May 1999
Posts: 33
C
cb
Offline
Member
cb
Member
C Offline
Joined: May 1999
Posts: 33
My wife and I have come to an understanding after 1 year of negotiating. Does this sould reasonable to anyone?<P>We both wrote down our needs. They were directly in contrast to each other. She needed:<P>Space-sleep on the couch<BR>No touching<BR>No kissing<BR>No hugs<BR>No Sex<P>I needed:<P>All of the above.<P>We agreed that both of us could have our needs met by the other anyway, but in small doses.<P>We would only kiss once per day, hug once per day, watch a TV program together, have sex very other week, etc.<P>We have been at this a few weeks. Things seem better. The pressure seems to be lefted. My question is am I only putting off the fact that she does not love me. Are both of our needs being met or are we just waiting for someone to come along that will meet them>\?
Re: Tough and Tougher
#60785 08/21/99 02:40 PM
Joined: Jul 1999
Posts: 64
Texas
T
txfiddler Offline
Member
txfiddler
Member
T Offline
Joined: Jul 1999
Posts: 64
Texas
She didn't put down what she needed. She listed what she doesnt want from you. I dont'a know of anyone who doesn't need hugs, kisses, sex, touches, etc. She has needs and wants, just not from you at this time. I strongly feel you need to re-evaluate your situation. Maybe you guys could try again with that list. Easier said than done, I know....
Re: Tough and Tougher
#60786 08/23/99 08:58 AM
Joined: Aug 1999
Posts: 115
South Carolina
A
A great resource to start recovering and healing your marriage i Offline
Member
A great resource to start recovering and healing your marriage i
Member
A Offline
Joined: Aug 1999
Posts: 115
South Carolina
Hi cb,<BR>Hmmmm, did you copy off all of the emotional needs information from Dr. Harley's web site and read it with your wife? From the looks of the things in your post, you didn't.<BR>I copied off all of the information and put it in word processing documents in different folders according to how it was arranged by the web site. You can do this easier if you just buy Dr. Harley's books, but I had to try it without spending money first. Then I found His Needs, Her Needs at our local library. I just bought Love Busters and I must say that it was the best investment I have made in my marriage to date.<BR>Post back when you have more questions, sharing or information. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<BR>Good Luck!! Thoughtful<BR>
Re: Tough and Tougher
#60787 08/23/99 11:51 PM
Joined: Aug 1999
Posts: 6
L
L Offline
Junior Member
L
Junior Member
L Offline
Joined: Aug 1999
Posts: 6
Do you have kids? If not, I would cut my losses now. How can anyone be married to someone has that list of needs. Someone else here said they aren't needs. They are demands of what not to do. This is a sad state of affairs for you. Good luck!

Moderated by  Fordude 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 542 guests, and 71 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
Zion9038xe, renki, Gocroswell, Allen Inverson, Logan bauer
72,026 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Annulment reconsideration help
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:05 PM
Help: I Don't Like Being Around My Wife
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:01 PM
How important is it to get the whole story?
by leemc - 07/18/25 10:58 AM
Following Ex-Wifes Nursing Schedule?
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:21 AM
My wife wants a separation
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:20 AM
Spying husband arrested
by coooper - 06/24/25 09:19 AM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,624
Posts2,323,522
Members72,027
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
Forum Rules · Mark All Read Contact Us · Forum Help · Marriage Builders
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Feedback | Terms and Conditions | Privacy Policy | Contact Us | Site Map | Account
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0