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My wife has never given herself a climax. She doesn't feel anything is missing in her life but I'd like for her to be able to achieve orgasm through masturbation.<P>She will try when I ask her, but hasn't climaxed in many times of trying. I enjoy watching and she is glad I do - but it doesn't feel good to her. She has achieved arousal of only 3 or 4 on a scale of 10. <P>I often give her a climax (even multiples) but mostly, orgasm for me is through intercourse in which I do all or most of the motion. Do you think her low drive to give me orgasms - is related to her not being able to masturbate? Do you think my wife is not attracted to me? What can I do?<P>mandm7
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Personally, I don't think she is missing anything special either. I mean, if we were designed to give ourselves pleasure, what would be the point of doing it with someone else? <BR>If you enjoy watching, and she doesn't mind touching herself for your pleasure, that's great. And maybe she needs to go over the chapter on your specific need for sexual satisfaction. But maybe you also need to concentrate more on what BOTH of you enjoy.
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I'm a little confused by your post. You say YOU want her to achieve orgasm by masturbation? While I can understand that watching her masturbate is a turn-on for you, I honestly don't see what difference it makes if she has an orgasm or not, as long as SHE is okay about that. Now, if she was upset about it, I'd be all over your case to help her. (lol)<P>Can she achieve orgasm from your oral stimulation of her? Will she stimulate you orally?<P>You say you end up doing most of the work during intercourse. Perhaps you could just simply tell her to help you out a little more and offer suggestions how. No one likes to be accused of being a lazy lover; she may put forth more effort. (I am the WORLD's most lazy lover and don't mind reminders occasionally.)
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Why is it so important for you that your wife orgasm through masturation? You say that she is capable of having mulitple orgasms through intercourse -- isn't that all that should matter? It seems that her achieving an orgasm through masturbation is more important to you than it is to her, and perhaps you are placing too much pressure on her. Lay off the masturbation for a while and just enjoy the sex that you both find pleasurable. As for her not doing any of the work when you are having intercourse, do you mean that she just lays there? Perhaps you can try different positions? Tell her that it turns you on to see her moving her body around...... and most of all -- have fun! It's not a contest.
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