Does anyone remember if Dr. Harley ever addressed the situation of when it is the husband who wants out? He had said that there are different rules to try to make it work than when it is the wife that wants out.He wrote of what the husband needs to do, but he said he would write at another time of what the wife needs to do to try to save the marriage if her husband wants out.

How seriously does your husband want out of the marriage? Does he give you any reasons that he would walk away from his commitment and marriage vows? Search for the time and causes that your marriage started to break down. Ask your husband if he is willing to try and recreate and recapture those feelings that brought you together in the beginning. If you and he have allowed someone or something else the priviledge of fulfilling each others basic needs or if your marriage is suffering from neglect, then rest assured that, with a joint positive approach, you can definitely rebuild that which you had before. I do not remember any specific, gender based approach to marriage rebuilding, rather it seems to me that it will take a concerted effort and commitment from both. If your husband is willing, try getting him to read Dr Harley's book(s). There must have been something that brought him to the point of wanting to marry you in the first place. Something happened that caused too many love units to be extracted from his Love Bank where you are concerned. For him to want to remain in a marriage that problem will have to be addressed and then reversed. That can only be done after you have identified the problem.