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Wife wants to go away and sort out feelings for us. However enroute she wants to first stop and visit a male friend she meet on the internet and has grown fond of. She says out of curiosity, that just to sightsee, and swears there will be no sex. It is killing me, do I try and convince her not to go and vist, and if so give her an ultimatum? Or just let her go on faith and hope she finds what she is looking for? Any info would help? If she does go what can i do to help calm myself?
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Joined: Dec 1999
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If she really wants to go, she is going to go.Nothing you say will have much of an impact on that. I would just honestly and calmly tell her how you feel about. If you start giving ultimatums,there will probably be an argument. Then she will leave mad at you on her way to see someone else. Bite your tongue, ask her not to go, tell her again why you don't want her to go, and then back off.that's about all you can do anyway. Good luck!
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Ask her what she want out of YOUR relationship and what she wants out of this encounter. She may be just looking for friends or just some sort of excitement in her life. If it is excitement then show her other ways rather than her going off to find it all on her own. You may offer to go with her. Share her feelings. Don't ever give ultimatums, they never work and create more harm than good. Its human nature to fight back and this will let her do that. All the best and hope it works out.<p>[This message has been edited by anthonyv (edited January 03, 2000).]
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