Hi everyone... Well to make it as short as poss., had an affair a few months ago,left husband to go be with this other man, stayed one night and came back home and my husband continued with his new relationship with someone else.He left a couple weeks later to go get her to move her back to where we lived.I went on with the kids to my hometown and begged him over the phone to come home just minutes before they were to leave. He did come home!!!!!We have it so rough right now.He knows how much I love him and I too discovered what he meant to me but I feel so ashamed and guilty for everything.We lost everything because of this affair!! Our house, cars,jobs,and we,ve never been this poor before and when we struggle fiancially, its that uch harder on me because I feel the one who messed our lives up so bad.I cant seem to get over this.Can anyone help me? I also feel that my husband feels intimidated because I bring up the past and I know I shouldnt but someone help me because I cant figure it out on my own!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi! no wise words frm me, but you should post this on the "general questions" or "recovery" board under the infifelity sections--you'll get a lot more people who can relate to your situation.<BR>Hang in there!

Dear Sunydaze,<P>Relax and take heart. The first part in your healing has already taken place, and that is your acknowledgement of the consequences of your actions.<BR>The second part has occurred also, and that is your reuniting in your home. <BR>It's time now to start rebuilding the love and trust that you lost, and that will take time and effort, and unfortunately some pain. But don't despair. All worthwhile endeavors require all these elements for success.<BR>Seach this website for advice, and run don't walk to the most affordable source of counseling available. There are many churches in your area committed to the success of marriages in distress. Seek them out.<BR>And remember, love is a verb. If you show your husband love, and if you forgive and love him and yourself, he will love you in return. Don't wait until you FEEL love for him. Love him now, work hard on yourselves and your problems, trust in God, pray unceasingly and the desires of your heart shall come to pass.