Well, my H who is in Mexico right now with a friend (single) has not called our daughters and I. I told him that if he was to go he had to sware that he would call, well he made two two minute calls on Sunday - 24 hours after he swore he would phone - he was very drunk(so much for him telling me he had no intention of going there to drink and party), the phone cut off, he knew I was upset but made no effort to call back and didn't even call on Monday. I don't even know where he is staying. He has a family and can not be reached in any emergency which really upsets me,totally irresponsible, our kids are asking to talk to him - he promised them he would call as well. I am so angry, its like this is the straw that broke the camels back. I have dealt with so much crap from him that I don't know if I can take it anymore. I was in a total withdrawl stage for almost a year because of his verbal abuse and his jelousy, he had accused me several times of cheating with friends of ours which was totally not true and has caused alot of damage to our relationship. We finally made a break through - I came out of the withdrawl but it also made alot of the hurt come back, every time he does something like this it all comes back since the majority of our problems were never ever resolved. I don't know if I want to have this work now, I do love him but I can't believe he is so irresponsible not to even care about his family and care that we are sitting here waiting for his call. I am so angry and hurt right now - I don't know if I can take anymore hurt with him. I don't know if he will ever realize how much he has really hurt me. He doesn't come back until this saturday and if he doesn't call I will go insane, I will be so upset that I don't even think I could stand to see him without totally loosing it. Today is his birthday and the kids are expecting to talk to him, I don't know what to say if he doesn't call, they will be heartbroken. Any advice please? Am I over reacting?

Fed Up- I feel so hurt for you and hear your pain in your post. I don't think anybody can say if you are overreacting. I would feel the same way and actually have been in a situation where he went away on business and never left a number. You could/should have asked him to leave the number before he left. Remember- if we don't ask, we don't get. I hope he will call you today and remember - you catch more flies w/ honey than vinegar so don't blow up on him over the fone. I would wait until he comes home and then arrange a time for the two of you to talk. Please don't go back into withdrawal. I'm there now and miserable.

Thanks for replying, it makes me feel better to hear from someone. He didn't have a number to give me, they didn't get a place to stay until they were down there and I repeated very many times the importance of him phoning and letting me know where he was staying. It is going to be so hard not to blow up on him, and I hope I can keep it cool especially since I can't get it off my mind. Why do relationships have to be so hard. Thanks again - it does help to hear from others.

fed up--<P>have you heard from your hubby?<BR>

Hi,<BR>Yes I finally did end up hearing from him and I told him that we had no idea where to reach him and that he has a family and what if someone was hurt and we needed to get a hold of him? He thought about this and called me back and said he was really sorry and that he should of called. He said he doesn't know why he didn't call and he should have and that he misses me alot. So I do feel much better now,I realize there are still alot of things that need to be worked out in our relationship but I hope we are on the right track now, thanks so much to all who listened to my venting, it did help me not loose my cool with him when talking, and it did let some of my anger out. Seeing him tommorow night, hopefully everything will work out. <BR>Thanks again