I am wondering if anyone else out there can relate or has any advice about a Christian being married to a non-Christian. I have read Dr. Harley's advice about mixed faith marriage but this seems different, because I am a Christian and he really isn't anything. <P>When I met my husband I was at a low spiritual point, he was a nice guy and a hard worker, and we really clicked. He claimed to be a Chritian and occasionally went to church so I didn't think much more about it at that point. Since I met him he was a social drinker and smoked, and I overlooked it then. <P>After being married for almost 2 years we had a baby (she is now 6 mo. old). This experience among other things have really prompted me to pick back up on my spiritual journey and to live as God would have me to live. The problem is that this seems to be pulling me away from my husband. I get angry when he goes out partying, when he curses sometimes, when he drinks, and I don't really like the same music, tv shows, or movies as he does anymore. I have asked him not to do some of these things around me or the baby but he still does. I feel that he does not compromise hardly at all, but yet then again this is his home too and he also deserves to feel comfortable. He feels like I am always nagging him or unhappy with him. I admit that I am unhappy a lot of the time because I am uncomfortable in the environment that he creates in our home. <P>Another big factor in this is raising the baby. I take her to church and try not to let her watch too much t.v., or any violence, etc. I am wondering what kind of things she might pick up from my husband when he watches her while I am at my part time job. He is loving and caring toward her but some of the negative things must effect her. <P>So what I am wondering is, how can we have a home that is comfortable for both of us? Should I continue to say things about the things he does that hurt me or make me uncomfortable? This is an everyday conflict for us in some way, even if nothing is said there is a tension between us. It is so hard to deal with, every single day, I would appreciate anyone else out there who is in my shoes or who may have some good advice to respond!

I think you should continue letting him know what makes you upset. You have a right to be happy, also. Try to find things you are both interested in. And see if there is anything you do that makes him unhappy. I found out in my marriage that there were things I did that my H didn't like, but I didn't feel like changing because he wasn't making any effort to change the things that were upsetting me. If you can find out the things you do to tick him off, and make an attempt to fix them, he will be encouraged to make you happy because you are trying to make him happy. The Taker in him will go back into hiding and he will care more about your feelings. For awhile you may feel like you are the only one who is doing anything in this relationship. But right now, someone has to want to make the marriage work and it looks like you drew the straw.<P>As for the child-rearing, that too will come with work. Talk about how you want your shild to grow up. No two people are going to have the exact same beliefs on this subject. You have to first find out what you mutually agree on, and then work out the other stuff that you have different views on. <P>I hope this helps. Hang in there.

Hi Ann,<P>You are welcome to come down to the Woman's Bible Study Forum and join us. we are studying the book The Power of a Praying Wife and since we started doing the book chapter by chapter, we have found out that the author has put out a study guide and so, we will begin this study guide very soon. <P>You will meet other Christian women and have prayer support. We would love to have you join us.