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#61233 06/06/00 06:10 PM
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My situation is similar to Cali's. My husband says he's been unhappy for several years. (We have been married for 13 yrs) He 'dropped the bomb'in January about wanting a divorce. He says he loves me("I'm the mother of his 3 kids") but is not 'in love' with me. He has always been more interested in sex than I have, and he now feels it is getting harder to stay faithful to me and he wants a divorce so he can pursue these feelings. He doesn't talk about his feelings much but now that we have been talking more,(and other things [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]) I feel there is hope. But he doesn't think so.I am trying to keep the lines of communication open which helps. What else can I do?

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You sound a lot like where I was back on 12/27. I'd suggest you go thru all the Basic Concepts stuff on the homepage...this MB stuff is very good at rebuilding the feelings of being "in-love" that your marriage is missing.<P>Pay esp. attention to the emotional needs q'aires...wld your H go thru those with you? Once you start working on meeting each other's needs, and those feelings do come back. The book "His Needs/Her Needs" is also very good.<P>Hang in there--<P>Kathi<P>

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<BR>Kam--<BR>Do those feelings always come back? How likely is it? I know there are no guarantees, but I know exactly what my H's HN are. I've been trying to meet them; he's noticed, too. He just doesn't know if it's too late to give me another chance. I know I can change my LB and meet his needs (he's not unreasonable )and I know a lot more about myself. How can I convince him that I can do it and that he should give me another chance?


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