My husband is an alcoholic who relapses every 6-24 months, and has been doing so for about 13 years. He hides his drinking so I never know until I "bust" him, which I did last night. He has been through four treatments, countless A.A. meetings, inpatient treatment at the Menninger Clinic in Kansas and a half-way house. He knows so much he could teach. He can't, however, stay sober. He drinks and drives. He watches our children (boys, ages 6 and 12) while I'm running errands. He steals from our eldest to buy booze. All the while I think he's sober. I don't trust him. I can never trust him, should I? What kind of role model is he? What kind of marriage is this? I don't think he's broken our marriage vows, so what are the grounds for divorce? Divorce is bad too - which is worse? Which is better for the children (staying in the marriage or not)? What does the Bible say about situations like this? Please help me - my heart is broken and I don't know where to go from here.

I feel so bad for you. Have you been to counseling, on your own?

wow-i can really relate- i know that its better for the kids to not be there- if you have the strength to make that happen- i dont for some reason. but good luck- hope you can make that happen for yourself- he is not ever going to be the man you want him to be.