My wife and I were married in may. In sept. she moved out for, well I really don't know why. The last time I spoke with her was a week later. She told me she has become addicted to Perscription Rx. She had not been to work for almost two months and I even took her to the hospital and doctor a few times because she was really getting sick. Everyone told me (doctors) and she told me also she had "mono". Well, after she said what she said that night I came home and found she had been perscribed over 300 ambien sleeping pills and a wide variety of anti-depressants and pain killers over just a three mont period. The total amount of pills from just two doctors and and 6 pharmacies were around over 600 yes I said 600 pills of eight different kinds.A combination of the pills would givr the same signs as someone who has mono.<BR>After that night I had notspoken with her until the 3rd of oct. This is when she served a restraining order on me and took both my cars. Well, the claims she made on me were all false. I know some of you readers will say yea, right but I mean nothing ever happened. all the incidents she claimed were things I told her of my distant past. The only thing she claimed that was even close was three years before I even knew she was alive. <BR>I love my wife very much and I want to help her and be there for her.If the meds. and other things hurt her and she is confused or whatever I want to help her. I appealed the restraing order because initally when we were in court I didn't want t make things more difficult for her. Well, needless to say I have been torn up and destroyed for this decisin. The restraining order will be overturned next week . I had an in chambers meeting with the judge and da who looked at the evidence. They believe she is incapable of making decisions herself because of the meds. If this goes to court this will destroy her and that is not what I want. She has put in a corner with no ther optins.<BR>We married because we lved each other. She refuses to seek counceling of any kind or even contact with me. I don,t know what to do. I will not force her to do anything she does not want to do. <BR>If anyone is outthere who can help me I would be indebt fr life. I want to grow old with her and love her the way I know we love each other. PLEASE HELP, ANYONE? <BR> Thank you so much, JS=ramair00<BR>Email me or instant message me at purpasion1@aol.com if you want. Marry x-mas to all and Elizabeth, I LOVE YOU

Hate to say it but your wife is a liar and possibley a thief. I don't know how you can save your marriage with such a person. I would get a divorce as soon as possible from this terrible person. Of course we have not heard the whole story yet.......Did you know whe was this way before you married her?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by baba2:<BR><B>Hate to say it but your wife is a liar and possibley a thief. I don't know how you can save your marriage with such a person. I would get a divorce as soon as possible from this terrible person. Of course we have not heard the whole story yet.......Did you know whe was this way before you married her?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by baba2:<BR><B>Hate to say it but your wife is a liar and possibley a thief. I don't know how you can save your marriage with such a person. I would get a divorce as soon as possible from this terrible person. Of course we have not heard the whole story yet.......Did you know whe was this way before you married her?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

Baba2...I think your post to a man who wants to save his marriage, in my opinion, was kind of insensitive. He loves her..and wants it to work out. Please don't make judgements on someone, his wife, that you don't know anything about. He is posting here for help, and the comments from you would most likely be hurtful..for he sees her as an extension of himself. If you hurt her, you hurt him. <P>To the original poster...Obviously, your wife is having problems. She is addicted to prescription drugs, is this what I'm understanding? THis is something you had no idea about. How long did you know her before you two married? Have you actually sat down with her and discussed this?<P>

I feel for you on this issue. I too, went through a 5-year relationship with someone who was an addict - alchohol, pot, cocaine. He cheated, he lied, he was abussive. There is NO easy answer for a situation like this. Baba2 has some truth in their post in that these people lie and cheat and to what is necessary to keep up their "habbits". There is not much you can do in the way of saving them until they want to save themselves. There is something in her life that has gone so terribly wrong that she has to resort to this. Of course, that's my opinion. But having first hand knowledge of being with an addict - it's very hard to maintain. Get counselling for yourself. I thought, too, that I could save this person. I thought I could fix them. You can't fix what doesn't want to be fixed. I feel for you tremendously because there is no easy answer to this. What I figured out about myself in this situation is that in as much as my partner was addicted to drugs and alcohol I was addicted to him. That may be a bad choice of words or we can be PC and say Co-dependent who knows. I am not a therapist but I certainly can tell you been there, done that, bought the T-shirt and bought the franchise. Your #1 priority, as hard as it is going to be, is you!!! <P>Hang in there friend. There is a end to all this. <P>Abby<BR>Labigator@hotmail.com

I feel for you on this issue. I too, went through a 5-year relationship with someone who was an addict - alchohol, pot, cocaine. He cheated, he lied, he was abussive. There is NO easy answer for a situation like this. Baba2 has some truth in their post in that these people lie and cheat and to what is necessary to keep up their "habbits". There is not much you can do in the way of saving them until they want to save themselves. There is something in her life that has gone so terribly wrong that she has to resort to this. Of course, that's my opinion. But having first hand knowledge of being with an addict - it's very hard to maintain. Get counselling for yourself. I thought, too, that I could save this person. I thought I could fix them. You can't fix what doesn't want to be fixed. I feel for you tremendously because there is no easy answer to this. What I figured out about myself in this situation is that in as much as my partner was addicted to drugs and alcohol I was addicted to him. That may be a bad choice of words or we can be PC and say Co-dependent who knows. I am not a therapist but I certainly can tell you been there, done that, bought the T-shirt and bought the franchise. Your #1 priority, as hard as it is going to be, is you!!! <P>Hang in there friend. There is a end to all this. <P>Abby<BR>Labigator@hotmail.com