How is it possible to negotiate if, even though both parties agree there is a problem, and both agree to "do something" to fix it, the other party does not do anything? I've been married now for the second time, this time only just over a year. I know my husband loves me and I love him. I also know that sex is not the basis of marriage, but it is a very important part of it to me. My first marriage, the sex was so bad, and my new husband and I discussed this subject ad nauseum prior to even getting involved. He knew what bothered me about my previous sex life. When we first became intimate, my husband's skill and stamina just blew me away. His foreplay was everything any woman could ever want, and I even proposed to him during it once. Prior to the marriage, and certainly since, there is nothing that I, as a woman, would consider to be foreplay. He has NO imagnation, NO stamina. I'm bored out of my mind, and when I think about our "sex life" I just want to cry. This has filtered into every other aspect of our marriage as I now see him as lazy, selfish, unmotivated, and my respect has decreased markedly. I feel like he conned me and I can't get past that. I've discussed with him my concerns, and have poured out my sout tom him. I've hidden nothing. He's promised time and time again to do something, he's apologized, blah blah blah, and NOTHING. We're talking years here.<BR>So, how is it possible to fix this? I don't trust it anymore. My faith has been shattered.
