I guess I could start off saying that my family is such a blessing to me and that I value my parents and sisters so very much. We are a hard working family and my father being the head of the household has never failed us! But about 12 years ago when my sister and I were 15 years of age he made a decision that changed out lives forever. My mother at the time worked yet did not have the strength to be desisive when it came to the decision of selling our beautiful home were my sister and I grew up so happily with beautiful surroundings, wonderful neighbors and friends, since he had bought the house with another family (two family home)the time came to sell the house and go our seprate ways, at the time, my father was just not focused on anything but his extra marital affair which happend to be with the other family which we shared the house with. Anyway, my mom's desperate need to escape forced her to just take us with her to a long vacation that summer, mean while my dad went ahead and let a jealous very mean envious "friend" of his talk him into buying this horrible burned down house in a city which was the complete opposite of what we were used to. Each family got their half when they sold the house and upon our return from our "vacation" my father had arranged for us to buy this piece of junk land and rebuild it completely with this other family again. Well nevertheless, this envious friend of his ran away with his half of the deal leaving my dad and the third party with this land to build a house on. We moved on new years eve and it was the saddes day of my life! After that, we had literally a RAT infestation in that house!! It was horrible, not even mice but RATS!!! Since then I began to possess remorse towards my dad and anger! Time went by and my sister and I didn't have a social life, let alone go outside and just enjoy the summers, no way! We ended up going to a high school with security guards all around the halls, and hating it! A couple of months into this nightmare, a miracle happend just as my parents were about to get a divorce and our family life was at it's worse, my mom gets pregant with two beautiful little girls. I am a twin and my mom had twins again 15 years later. Years went by and I am now married with my own little girl, but you have no idea how incredibly guilty and confused and sad I felt when I married and moved away, i a way it was such a relief to get out of there, and move to a small apt. in a very nice town, but part of me was sad, to think that even though my dad learned his lesson and was now a changed man, i have always felt the need to help them, i mean parents make mistakes too and I love them dearly, but I don't want my little sisters to go through what we did! they haven't had a great childhood, although my sister and I have been around and helped them alot! Well, yesturday, the broke into the house and robbed money, and ransacked the place to no end!! I wasn't surprised it happend, but I was so devistated, and thanked god so much that nobody was home, especially my little sisters!!! My husband and I are getting ready to buy a house, and we are not rich, but were looking for a one family home, even though we know the mortgage will be tough, we still want to do it for the good of our baby girl. Well with this happening, I feel the great need to just tell my husband if we could go ahead and buy a two family home with my parents. My mom babysits for us and it would be perfect especially because in a year or two I plan on having anothe baby. The confort of having my mom their to assist us and intern us help her and my dad and I am practically a second mom to my sisters woould be a satisfaction beyond compare for me. I don't think this will fly with my husband though, he believes that problems will arise, but then again, I feel it would be a good investment at this point in our lives too!! We can still save up and then get our own house when we are totally ready too. Pls. if anyone lives or has bought a home with family, give me some advise or give me your stories. I feel that the union will be beneficial to both families, and we can live very happy if we both negotiate and respect our lives as seperate as they are. We are just normal people working hard to succeed and grow and just live happily. My husband liked the idea at first but then all of a sudden he didn't. and when i told my mom that we didn't think it was a good idea to buy the house together, years ago, I know she was dissapointed, I could see it in her eyes, I jsut really want to help them out! Pls. feel free to email me at evipena@yahoo.com. Thank you so much!

Buying a home with your parents may be a mistake. Here is my story in a nutshell:<BR>My sister was taking advantage of my mother a few years back (and still is). She had my mother front the cash for her new business and buy her a car. Thus, my mother had to mortgage the house. My H and I were thinking of getting our own place, so my mother thought it would be a great idea to build onto her existing house an addition for her and my dad. The one part of the house is too big for them and the place we were in was too small. <BR>So we went ahead, all in agreement. Now, it is such a complete nightmare!! I thought it would be better than having to pay my FIL to keep my children so that my H and I could work. My mother said she would watch them for free. Take that at the expense of hearing how she thinks they should be raised, how we punish the kids and so forth.. You get the picture?<BR>Mistake!!<BR>My advice to you is be careful. Maybe your situation isnt as bad as mine. And I love my mother and father and their opinions matter to me, but they may drive a wedge between my H and I. Anything that he does and they see, they voice their opinions to me about. Like if they think that my H doesnt change our baby's diaper often enough to suit them, I hear about it like I should yell at my H about it or something!<BR>Take caution... <BR>Its not all THAT bad, but if its something that you can both agree on (POJA), enthusiastically, then do it. <BR>Hope I was of some help,<BR>Roberta<BR>P.S. Think of whats best for your marriage first