I feel very frustrated with my H at the moment, everything seems to be a struggle,from getting him to pick up after himself to taking responsiblity from some of the decisions in our home.<P>I feel he does not listen and he basically does what he feels like.<P>When we married we agreed that as I was the higher earner that he would be the primary carer when we had children.<P>I work very long hours but the financial rewards are worth it, however it leaves me with very little time for us or myself. I work this hard to ensure we are financially secure when we do start a family.<P>My H does not really help around the house snd I can can not remember when he cook dinner for me,eventhough he is home hours before me. As for housework, that appears to be a foreign concept to him, I have tried to get him to do small things to ease the burden such as doing some of the laundry, but he either forgets to do it or comes up with some lame excuse.<P>Once I cook & clean in the evenings all I feel like doing is falling into bed and I feel we are not communicating as much as we should.<P>I am afraid to start a family with My H because I do not feel that he will take responsibility and I will be left to arrange childcare.<P>I want to resolve this problem but everytime we discuss this matter,he agrees to change his behaviour but after a week or so we are back at square one.<P>I feel resentful that everthing is left to me and he can go play golf,drink with his buddies and bascially do what he wants, and that he does not appreciate how hard I work for us.<P>Am I being stupid or is this a real problem?<P>
