This is my first post. My H and I have been married for 6 years and we have a 2 years old daughter. But we had too many troubles since the beginning, he cant keep a job, he lies all the time, cheat with money, threat me all the time, he hit me once and the very last one, he had an affair, which he tried to hide from me until I filed for divorce, after I filed, he told me “yes, I am dating someone and you can not file for adultery”. I also had to issue a temporary protective order against him. He moved out with her and we put the house for sale, after that, I decided to move closer to my work. <BR>We went to court to extend the protective order, and he showed his true colors to my lawyer, he just care about his hunting license. In that moment I think he understood that I am not that stupid and how far I can go to protect my daughter and myself.<BR>Three weeks after the hiring he started calling me, when we finally talked, he told me that he was sorry, he brooked up with her and move back to our house, he said he was going to do his best to get his family back, that he just want me to give him a chance to proof that he is being sincere, that he loves me, even though he told her he loves her until the previous day that he moved out of her house.<BR>He is “trying” to get psychological help, but I have the filing that he is not doing this because of love, I think he is scare of something.<BR>Last night I called him and told him that it is fine, I want to work on this but that I have not stop the divorce yet that I want to finalized it and if later on every thing works out good between us, then we can get married again. You should hear his reaction, he started screaming again, saying that he was going to loose every thing, that my lawyer was going to screw him up, that he will stop trying to save our marriage and that it is over and all kind of bad words.<BR>At this point he has nothing, because he is not paying the house and I am afraid it will be foreclosed soon, now I understand that his real reason to be sorry is because he is scare of loosing something, but I do not know what. Does any body have an idea of what can be going trough his mind?? Should I keep going thru with the divorce or should I put it on hold???? Please help!!!! <BR>

I don't think it's a good idea to get back together with him, you have reason to be frithened of him. He's scared of losing everything, which he already has. You know in your heart that he is acting out of desperation and will never change. Think about u and your daughter. He's a grown man and will figure out what to do with himself! Take care.

I also feel that you should listen to your "gut" instinct about your husband. It sounds like he has already put you through a lot of pain and i'm not sure if he is going to change. Take care of yourself and your daughter and continue to read some of the articles posted by this site.