I arrived home with our other children, about 20 minutes after my husband and our oldest teenager. When I enter the house, I hear that they sound like they have a lively discussion (not an argument, just a great time of talking together)about something going. They greet me as I enter the room they are in, and I say pleasantly, "Hey! What are you talking about?" My husband said "You have no right to come in and ask what we are talking about! That's rude." I was very hurt. I wasn't trying to be nosy. I just wanted to join in. I love it when we all engage in good conversation together. I also was crushed that he said that to me in front of our teenager. I think it sets an example that our teenager doesn't have to respect me. What do you think? I'm very upset over this.<p>[This message has been edited by questioning (edited June 26, 2001).]

questioning,<BR>I think you have a right to be upset anytime anyone treats you with disrespect and especially when a family member does. I don't know what your history is but apparently there is some anger there from your husband or he is incredibly insensitive. It would be good to study some on fulfilling each others needs and also try to find out where the animosity comes from. If you or your husband have a problem with each other, that should be addressed in private and definitely not airing your problems or even the results of your problems in front of your kids.

I also think the teenagers were rude and were also surprised at seeing you because they were behind a door<P>They live under your roof and should at least be able<BR>to at all times have respect for you<P>But the bright side is that they are still there<BR>and so are you<P>So I would suggest not to rub too much salt into<BR>the situation being naturally protective and <BR>also wanting to be a part of their lives, and <BR>to find another way of sharing their time with<BR>you like kite flying or perhaps you have a better<BR>idea like hamburgers or pizza<P>I am on kidnpuppetshow@yahoo.com<BR>and I think you are a super dad especially going as far as asking others their opinion to make sure of seeing it from other people's point of view as well<P>Carol