I need help!!! My wife and I live in Alaska for the past 5 years and now she wants to leave Alaska and head to the east coast to be closer to her family. I don't want to move.I have a good job, Beatiful house and live in a great neighborhood. And most of all I love it here. Alaska is the type of enviroment that I want to live in. For the first time in my life I found a place that makes me happy. If I move back I will not be happy and our marriage will fail. I don't know what to do. She will not listen. She has said in the past she loves it here and if she had to saty it wouldn't be bad. Her family Mom/Dad want her to move back and they always mention it to me. And I know they are putting allot of pressure on her. But she would never tell me that though. Help please

Hi lonewolf!<P>I can certainly relate to you. About 4 years ago my husband convinced me to move to from Montana to another state in order to pursue his educational pursuits. For various reasons he ended up just working and I am still here with no family and no friends. (I am currently pregnant with my 4th child). I enjoy the simple life like you. Montana offered a laid back life similar to Alaska. I am now in a surburban, highly populated enviornment and my health has deteriorated since being here. <P>I Suggest that you really be honest and open about your feelings. Your wife needs to consider your feelings and how this decision will affect both of you. Although relatives are wonderful, sometimes it is actually good to keep a healthy distance. (Depending on the relatives). Although I understand where she is coming from, you should be her first priority. If you go there and hate it, you can become resentful and it can defintely hurt your marriage. I wish you the best!

Tell your wife that you are married to her and she to you and that you come first in her life<P>Tell her parents the same thing and ask them politely not to encourage her to want to move back as it is tearing you both apart and it is making it difficult for you and her to build a relationship<P>Encourage them to write by postcard only rather than speak on the phone or internet so that the emotional tugging from them at their daughter can stop<P>Then get her interested in something she really likes and you get involved with it too<P>It sounds also like she needs you more and start talking to her about the things you and her used to do and how you met and work through speaking about the years you have been together<P>Try to get a Christian minister involved in counselling you both<P>A man leaves his parents just like a woman and becomes one with his wife<P>So the parents must take step back immediately or you will risk her being torn away from you<P>I must say it is a little selfish of them probably not intended to draw her away from you like that and should<BR>respect your situation and cut themselves off immediately from attracting her away from you like that but should encourage her to step in your direction because you are her number one and need her to be yours and put you in number one too<BR>

Hi. I agree with all the other people that have replied. I too was moved away, and I DID NOT WANT TO AT ALL, and I did and WAS MISERABLE. If you do not want to move, express your concerns and tell her. You should be one with your wife. It sounds she misses her family. Even though many people know what the bible says about leaving family and cleaving to husband or wife, it is hard to do. So she and you need to be one , and when that happens she will miss them, but wont feel she is EMPTY without them!! Take care<BR>sweeteeyore